BBL/DAY 7: REPLACE NEGATIVITY WITH LOVE.
Hello and back for Day 7. But, first How are you feeling? Yesterday was a big post for me and after a lot of thought and prayer. I decided to stop posting a direct link from IG here.
IG is a funny thing most of the time especially with Links in profile. No one swings over. I’m actually ok with it. This ultimately is my way of connecting with my own thoughts and getting it out all on the page. This is my journey not anyone else’s. And this is hard time for nearly everyone in some way or another. I honor that:)
Today’s Topic is a Good one and what resonated with me most is Ashley’s Statement, “Step out of Yourself- A Negative Thought is a Selfish thought.”
Agreed. Agreed. Self-objectification (focusing on ourselves) Appearance wise even if it is self-deprecating. Is still selfish.
I remember in Jr. High there was acquaintance in my circle of friends that sat at our lunch table. Every chance she got she would dog herself, “I’m Ugly.” She wasn’t and throughout school she was known as the girl that did this to phish for compliments. It even became a joke with our peers. I even got busted by her overhearing me complaining of how much this annoyed me. So, let’s just say we’re still not friends on Facebook 😂.
But, Seriously looking back. Jr. High was hard for us all and even though she was pretty and outwardly looked like she wasn’t struggling in the looks department. I can’t imagine what her interior Negative Self-Talk was if she constantly downed herself like that openly.
And Hindsight 20/20 I’d should have instead of voicing my opinion in gossip, went to her directly. And dug a little deeper with compassion. But, I was 15 after all and struggling in my own way:(
Reflecting on this reminds me we all have a inner critic and it can be a selfish inducing one at that. So, sometimes the best way to combat that is to STEP OUTSIDE OURSELVES!
Compliment others in a genuine way beyond appearance. And get over the Women Competitive Thing our culture promotes so often. “Oh, She will get a Big Head Bullshit.”
I’ve seriously come to believe in the last few years when we’re jealous of another woman it is actually Our Deal. Our lack of Worth holding us back and comparing ourselves in a scarcity mentality. Not a abundant way.
“Oh she is so confident and has her shit together. I don’t like her.” but really usually means in our heads… “Oh I wish I was that confidant and had my own shit together. I don’t like me.”
But, you can. I can. We just need to slow our Negative talk roll down and become Aware!
As Ashley said in Day 7: NEVER SUPPRESS A GENEROUS THOUGHT. Towards others or ourselves.
I’ve been working hard at this. Being more mindful of the thoughts I create around negativity and reframing them with Love.. It’s becoming a little easier day by day:) Progress not Perfection.
This is a short post, but Tomorrow in Day 8, She speaks of finding lasting confidence and some cool thought work to continue this Topic. See you here tomorrow.
Cynthia